HIV/AIDS- Youth Vs. Sex Workers | Apan Hyana Aiklat Ka? #SexEducation #VishayKholOn March 15, 2020 by Raul Dinwiddie
-Condom is, when you do it… -That’s what I’m asking; do what? -When you have sex… -Yes, say it. ‘Sex’. -When you have sex… -Say it loudly. ‘Sex’. -Sex. Welcome all of you to ‘Apan Hyanna Aiklat Ka?’ December is ending. Winter is upon us. The year is coming to an end. But, most importantly… Vishay Khol team is celebrating this entire month as an AIDS awareness month. In the course, we are here to talk about a sensitive but important topic. It is a sensitive topic, but it’s important. So, please watch the video, don’t miss the end. Make sure you don’t miss the end! Keep watching. These are necessary questions, keep listening and watching. Where did you first get your sex education from? Porn? -Myself. -Mobile. -At school. People watch YouTube, or the movies that come… -What movies? -So many movies. ‘Murder’, for one. -Tell me. Do you have such discussions in your family? About sexual health? -Yes, we do. -No, never. -Haven’t talked to my family about this. It’s awkward. -Family gets awkward? -No, I do. What do you think will happen if you touch this topic, like ‘Dad, we have to talk today’? They’ll kick me! Does it ever happen that a condom ad plays on TV when you’re with kids? How do you react and they react? I look into my phone. I try to guess if they’ll get up first or will I have to. Then I leave the room. No, we don’t get such ads on our TV. Tell me: where did you first learn about AIDS? -9th grade textbook. -When we had AIDS day… Science book. It was in the biology textbook. -From movies. -On Instagram. I learnt about it on social media. If you’re dating someone and you learn that they have HIV, what will you do? What do you mean what I’ll do? I’ll leave them. I’ll ask her to have as little sex as possible, you know. I’ll maintain good relations with them, but not get physical. I’ll take them to a doctor, get them treated. If I am in love, I won’t be able to leave them, I mean… We look to match horoscopes for marriage. -Do you think we should also test for HIV and other STDs along with that? -Yes, of course. -People rarely match horoscopes these days. -What are you saying?! -Yes. That ad on TV: your horoscopes match, but will your personalities? -Tests are important. -But what if someone’s horoscope is bad? Life is anyway screwed up. Have you ever heard a myth about HIV? Any misconceptions or false things? Drinking water or eating with them will give you AIDS. That you shouldn’t be close to such people or share things with them. -That you get AIDS just by being with them. -Really? That you shouldn’t talk to them… I realized later that- -How can you not talk to them? -They said that talking to them gives you AIDS?! What are the advantages and disadvantages of using condoms? Only disadvantage is, it’s 95% effective, not 100%. Advantage is that… I mean, you should always wear it before doing it. Wear what and do what? You use too many pronouns. -Condom is… When you do it… -That’s what I’m asking; do what? -When you have sex… -Yes, say it. ‘Sex’. -When you have sex… -Say it loudly. ‘Sex’. -Sex. -Right. -So when you have sex, condoms protect you, you know. And if you do it without a condom, you might have a problem. Tell me what’s the difference between HIV and AIDS? -I don’t know. -You don’t know? -I never paid attention to it. -I know there is some difference. -There is something… Something with HIV… HIV is a blood group, AIDS is a disease. -HIV is the causative agent and AIDS is what you get… -Exactly. -Syndrome. Immuno-deficiency syndrome. -Right. -Last stage of HIV is AIDS. -Yes, exactly. -Condom? -Safety? -Sex. -Durex. -I don’t feel awkward saying it. -Porn? -Sunny Leone. -Mia Khalifa. -Disgusting. Haven’t watched it yet. -Sex workers? -They do it to fill their bellies. -Most fun job? -Budhwar Peth. -Fine. It’s their job. -Respect? So, you have heard how the youth answered. Now we’re in Sangli. We’re going to interview that section of society that is never heard out. Once you hear them, you will ask yourself if you really are listening to them. Let’s see what they have to say. So, Kiran ma’am, you… My name is Kiran. I stay in Sangli and I’m a sex worker. I work for this organization called Sangram and Veshya Anyay Mukti Parishad. Sangram and Veshya Anyay Mukti Parishad works with sex workers, and works against HIV and the injustice and abuse faced by sex workers. My name is Maya. I’ve been in this profession for 16 years. My name is Meenakshi; I am a sex worker. When I was young, I had sex with a friend at school. Since then, I’ve been in this profession. I’ll give you a word and you have to tell me your views about it in one word. -Condom? -Condom is necessary. -You have to use it. -Safety. -Porn? -I imagine a guy with a ripped body. Pornography… It’s each person’s choice. I think it’s important how we perceive it when we watch porn. It can affect you. -Sex work? -It’s good. -I like it. -We’ve voluntarily chosen it. -Livelihood. -What’s the difference between HIV and AIDS? -HIV is a virus. AIDS is the later stage. When the HIV virus enters the body, it slowly reduces your immunity. Because of this weak immunity, the person gets a bunch of diseases together. Many diseases, like kidney, liver disease etc. Then their immunity is completely deteriorated. That’s how they get AIDS. Can you tell us a few advantages of using condoms? If we use a condom, it increases the duration of sex. It protects us from HIV. Secondly, we can avoid unwanted pregnancies. -Right. -And it protects us from STDs and similar diseases. When you see a condom ad at home, with your family, how do you react? I think instead of laughing at it or being embarrassed, you should discuss it. Because, when children grow up, they should know that they need to use a condom even for their first sexual encounter. -It’s a good thing, and it’s very important that people… -know about it. People who don’t know about it need to learn how to use a condom, and that it protects from HIV. When did you first learn about HIV? When we joined Sangram, they informed us about HIV. When I started working in the organization as an ORW, I got to know what AIDS is. If you know a person has HIV, will you accept them as a partner and date them? Will you marry them? I have HIV. I have had it for 15 years. All my family, and my coworker activists are with me. We all live together happily. I’ve never faced discrimination or been left aside because of the disease. When I joined Sangram, I met my partner. He was HIV positive too. I had married and stayed with him for 11 years. We match horoscopes while arranging marriages. Tell me, is the horoscope important or is it perhaps more important to test for HIV and other STDs? Horoscopes do not matter. The only thing is… The girl and the boy who are getting married- both of them should be tested. Blood test has to be done. Where did you first receive sex education from? -We didn’t receive it. -We didn’t know anything about this before. And then… Once, we went to a sex work area. People from Sangram were there. They arrived and gave us information about HIV-AIDS, about STDs. They told us how to use condoms. Tell me how frequently do you get tested for HIV? HIV test once every 6 months, RMC once every 3 months. -Sorry, what’s RMC? -Medical check-up, if you have any health problem… I used to get treatment from a private hospital. One bottle of ART medicine cost Rs. 3000. -Tell me, is it free or is there a cost? -It’s free. It’s free. How is HIV detected? Firstly, the person is asked if they are willing. First, they need to be counselled about what HIV is, what AIDS is, what STDs are… Then, when the person gives voluntary consent, we can take them for the test. There’s a finger test; so we get a report quickly; within 15 minutes. Were there any misconceptions about HIV before? That you get HIV from using a condom. There are still a few misconceptions. Like, if a person has the disease, keep them away. They should have a separate room; their stuff should be kept at a distance. That we don’t cause HIV. That it’s a disease that only men and women get. So we never even considered using protection. That condom takes away the pleasure. Can breastfeeding transmit HIV from mother to child? -Yes. -It can, but only when the baby has a wound in the throat or something. No, it cannot. There are medicines. Pregnant women take special medicines. But if you cut the umbilical cord properly after the delivery & don’t allow blood inside, it doesn’t transmit HIV. You can’t breastfeed. Doctors tell you to feed them some other milk. -Is there a permanent solution to cure HIV or AIDS? -No, no. There is no medicine that can totally cure AIDS. ART at Civil Hospital helps you live longer. ART is a tablet that you take. It prevents the virus from coming out. -Is HIV contagious? Does it spread through touch? -No. -No, no. -There are 4 ways of contracting HIV-AIDS. From a used syringe. From mother to child. Third is from HIV positive blood, if a person receives blood from an HIV positive person. And from unprotected sex. If you don’t take these precautions, HIV does get transmitted. Can you give a message to the next generation? What they should and shouldn’t do? Use protection. If you use a condom 100% of the times, you won’t get HIV. Sangram has a group that works on this: Vidrohi Mahila Manch. Vidrohi Mahila Manch goes to schools and colleges to give sex education. If you give sex education to children when they enter puberty, it will have really good outcomes. 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