Group Bonding Exercises – Negative to Positive #68On August 12, 2019 by Raul Dinwiddie
In the beginning of the exercise the team sits in a circle. The trainer points to someone in the circle (person A) who chooses someone from the circle with whom he experienced a negative interaction in the past (person B). Person B doesn’t necessarily has to have the same experience regarding the situation. The duo separates from the group and the trainer points to another person A who will do the same. Also this duo separates from the group. This will be continued until the team has been split up into duos. Each duo discusses the situation. First person A tells person B what it was that caused a negative feeling inside him. In this example: Last week I asked you if you want to join me for lunch. I thought the way you said you were too busy was very curt. It made me feel rejected and thinking I won’t ask you for lunch again. Secondly he tells what he would like to have heard as an alternative. I would like to have you said that you appreciated that I asked you for lunch before telling me you were to busy. That would have given me a positive feeling. Next person B tells how he experienced the situation. In this case: I recall you asking me for lunch. I was so busy at that moment which made my reaction too curt. I didn’t mean to cause you any negative emotion. Now person A tells to person B what he appreciates about the situation regarding to the information person B just gave him. I am happy that I now know why you reacted that way and that it has nothing to do with me. What I appreciate about it is that you work very hard for our team and I understand why sometimes that can interfere with social desirable behaviour. Everyone sits back in the circle and now you point to a person B that points to a person from the group with whom he experienced a negative interaction with. The person you point to can choose anyone he wants. Also other person B’s. Again each duo separates from the circle. Point to person B’s until there a no persons B’s left anymore. In this case person B tells in the second round to the other person: Last week when we discussed how to deal with bad behaviour in the classroom I told you I think it is not ok to punish the kids who are not paying attention. I told instead I like to give them rewards. When I told you it seemed you didn’t really listened to what I was saying. Now he tells what he like to have heard as an alternative. I would like to have you think about how giving positive rewards to students which pay attention could approve upon the atmosphere in the classroom. The other person now tells how he experienced the situation: I did listen, but I was a bit irritated by the class I just taught. I really wanted them to listen and I experienced that threat them with extra homework when they don’t pay attention did work for me. But I am sorry I wasn’t very open to your suggestion of giving rewards. I will definitely consider it next time I teach a difficult class. Person B now says what he appreciates about the situation. I appreciate that you are so motivated to keep the students pay attention to your lessons. And also that you will consider my suggestion of giving rewards. After this second everybody goes back to the circle. If their are persons who hasn’t shared a negative experience yet, they can now choose someone and do the same while the rest of the group waits. This way everyone has had the opportunity to share what they experienced negatively listen to the reaction of the other person, and reframe the situation in a positive way. The trainer guides the team and applies variations to the exercise. What kind of variations you can read below this video on Youtube. And haven’t you subscribed yet? ? Hit the subscribe button to stay tuned for a new team exercise each Sunday on youtube.com/teamexercises to improve cooperation and communication.